Dear Howard
I address this letter to you, hoping that you can help me out of a great sorrow...
 

In the autumn of 1894 Asa Jr.’s older brother Howard entered college in Oxford, GA, at the age of 15. The following autumn Buddie joined him, only a few days prior to his 15th birthday. This sounds early by today’s standards, but in those days a boy could enroll at Emory College as a sub-freshman as young as 14.

Emory was a fine Methodist college located 40 miles east of Atlanta in Oxford, GA, just a hop over the train tracks from Covington. Its male-only student body could choose one of three degree options. Howard followed the Bachelor of Arts (A.B.) track, which had the higher admission criteria. Buddie started as an A.B., stepped down to a Bachelor of Philosophy (B. Ph.) during his sophomore year, and barely made it to graduation.

Buddie’s freshman year began with academic struggles, to his father’s dismay. Howard’s satisfactory performance plummeted after Buddie’s arrival, too. In January of 1896, Asa, Sr., wrote: “I am real blue about my boys today.  Everybody tells me how smart you both are.  …Your marks are past as low as they can be to admit of your mischief.  Can't you do better?  Ain't there some way for you to learn your lessons? …Buddy especially ought to get the best marks. Sound body. Strong mind. Been in good schools all his life. Now why can't I see better reports? Write to me why. I am asking only that you do your best. I can give you nothing but a good education. Won't you take that?”

Howard, always susceptible to his father’s pressures, pulled his grades up. Buddie did only as much as was necessary to stay enrolled and felt no obligation to curtail the mischief the letter alluded to.

 
...Your Uncle Warren writes that Buddie has been acting badly. How can my own child treat me so?...
 

There were problems from the start. Some were a natural consequence of having two teenaged brothers so close in age with such different personalities living and socializing together. It’s no revelation that siblings fight. But Howard and Buddie had deeply mismatched personalities and the school community was too small to give them the space to develop outside of each other’s presence and influence. They fought frequently enough to necessitate intervention, but their parents’ hands were tied by distance and the demands of the growing Coca Cola business, which was starting to enter a period of legal struggles that dominated Asa, Sr.’s, attention.

Buddie arrived at Emory at a social disadvantage. His brother had already spent a year there, making friends and learning the ways of college life. Howard joined the Kappa Alpha Order fraternity and the Atlanta Club, spent a year with the Phi Gamma debate society, and was a member of the mandolin club and tennis club. A self-admitted shy and self-conscious boy, Howard came out of his shell when he moved away from home. Buddie’s arrival was not welcome. Howard spoke poorly of his brother behind his back, and was easily lured into physical fights when Buddie egged him on. He started skipping classes, at one point totaling 10 absences to Buddie’s 8, and both of their grades suffered. But he continued to try to maintain his reputation with their parents as the “good” son.

In 1896 Asa, Sr., wrote to Howard: “I received your letter [and] also one from your brother.  He presents a very different statement of the troubles with him as it touches you – from what you state.  While I know he has done wrong, acted more wickedly, I fear you too are not [doing] right.  He is your younger brother.  You have never treated him as it is your duty to.  You prefer other boys to him, speak disparagingly of him to others and allow others to speak to you evilly of him & tear him down.”

Family anecdotes claim that Howard had Buddie blackballed from Kappa Alpha, an organization that the Candlers had close ties to. This claim was made by Buddie himself to his children and grandchildren during a time when he and Howard were not speaking to each other, so his version of what happened could be skewed. But two pieces of evidence support his claim.

  1. Buddie never joined any fraternity. Most of his schoolmates joined organizations, commonly fraternities and debate clubs. Buddie was in the Atlanta Club by default. He also briefly appeared on the Phi Gamma roll, one of the two big debate societies on campus, although he didn’t participate in any debate on record. Later he would establish the Emory Bicycle Club (more on that in Hobbies) and join a cryptically named and probably joke organization called the Cat Club as “pet swiper.” That was it. Many of his classmates appeared in multiple organizations every year, and more boys joined fraternities than abstained. Buddie never participated in Greek life, in spite of a family legacy with KA. This makes him an odd man out in the Candler clan.

  2. Their father’s letters on file in the Emory University Manuscript, Archives & Rare Papers Library demonstrate the senior Asa’s keen interest in clubs, and perhaps some tension between the brothers over Howard’s passion for KA. In November of 1895 Asa, Sr., wrote: “I hope for your parents sake you do nothing that would be wicked or harmful to us and to you both.  I hope you, Asa, are not worrying and teasing Howard about decent society affiliations.  Don't do that.  Wait till I see you.  I want you to make so splendid a record in college both as a gentleman & scholar as that you will be greatly desired by all good clubs.”

Their uncle, future Georgia Supreme Court Justice John Slaughter Candler was initiated into Kappa Alpha’s Epsilon chapter in 1877, elected grand historian in 1881, served as 10th KA Knight Commander 1881-1885. Their uncle and host, Emory President Warren Candler was also a lifelong member and champion of KA. Buddie and Howard’s younger brother Walter was a proud KA member and a participant in Emory and KA activities throughout his adult life. Cousins who attended Emory also joined KA, such as John Slaughter’s son, Asa Warren Candler. John Slaughter’s son-in-law, George Speight Ballard, even built the historic KA Mansion on Eagle Row at Emory University. The KA connection runs deep in the Candler family. It’s notable that Buddie wasn’t a member.

So there may be truth in Buddie’s claim to his grandchildren that their Great Uncle Howard had him blackballed from the only fraternity the Candler men ever cared about. Although that would have caused drama for all involved, it wasn’t the half of what was to come.

 
...For my own son who bears my name & for whom I labor & work & pray to deliberately disgrace me is more than I can bear...
 

Emory had no on-campus dormitories, so the school relied on local homeowners to offer rental housing, and a few privately owned “Helping Halls” acted as de facto dorms. Kids from out of town could secure room and board there, often sharing quarters and abiding by strict house rules. But Howard and Buddie didn’t need to find housing. From 1888-1898, the future Bishop Warren Akin Candler, younger brother of Asa, Sr., and the boys’ uncle, was the President of Emory College. As such, he maintained residency at the President’s House, now known as the Dean’s House, just up the road from the northern edge of campus at the corner of Wesley and West Soule. Rather than renting, Howard and Buddie lived with their uncle and aunt in relative comfort compared to their Helping Hall classmates.

Side note: While the fact that Buddie and Howard lived with Warren is well documented, their location was never confirmed in previous Candler family histories. Not all Emory Presidents lived at the President’s House. I reached out to an Oxford historian, and he was able to provide a manuscript titled “Oxford Echoes” by Dr. Charles C. Jarrell, which was written for the Wesleyan Christian Advocate. An excerpt can be found on the Oxford Historical Society website. Dr. Charles’ account confirmed that Warren Candler was indeed a resident of the President’s house during his term, including the years of this nephews’ enrollment.

Figuratively speaking, Warren was a towering figure among the student body. Literally speaking, he was a short, squat man. His height earned him the nickname King Shorty. He was loved and feared, and his booming oration from the pulpit spawned running jokes that circulated among the student body like old-timey memes. The Candler boys’ relationship to the all-powerful King Shorty lent them status, but also put them in the crosshairs of their uncle’s moral strictures. And he was certainly strict. Even Howard, who spent his life trying to be the buttoned-up, responsible one, found himself in trouble with King Shorty, mostly for skipping class. Buddie, who sniffed out trouble like a bloodhound, repeatedly fan afoul of his uncle’s high expectations. See the photo gallery below for a glimpse into King Shorty’s legacy among the student body.

Personal correspondences on file at the Emory Rare Paper Archive tell a story of impudence and self-aggrandizement in Buddie’s behavior. Buddie felt that his uncle’s status on campus gave him leeway to act up and break rules without the fear of consequence. After all, his daddy’s Coca Cola business was gaining fame, and in 1897, at the end of Buddie’s sophomore year, the school built and named Candler Hall in honor of his uncle (supposedly against Warren’s protests). Is it any wonder that his family’s status went to his head? When caught in a prank or a rule violation he would invoke his relationship to King Shorty with the expectation that he would benefit from cronyism, which frustrated his father.

 
...My brother says he must be taken from Oxford, that he can’t control him. It is horrible! Only last Sunday he wrote me how he was determined to do his duty. Before a week has passed he breaks his word...
 

But Buddie’s attitude may have been justified. Some of his activities should have been expellable offenses, but his parents rose to his defense and talked Warren down each time he threatened serious punishment. Some of Buddie’s infractions reported in family lore and in personal correspondences included:

  • Skipping classes and church

  • Smoking on and off campus

  • Riding a bicycle on the campus quad after bike traffic was banned

  • Behavior deserving of the yearbook superlative “Class Pugilist.”

  • Hiding a live goat in the belfry of Seney Hall (reported incorrectly in other resources as the chapel)

  • Filling the campus chapel with hay or snow (some resources claim it was hay, while school records say snow was placed in the chapel during this period)

Note: some of the stories itemized above have been reported in varying detail by previous sources. While my conclusions are partially informed by those anecdotal stories, I have also used additional primary resources including: Emory campus life stories from the time period, documents on file with the Oxford Historical Society, local Covington/Oxford histories, Emory College Zodiac yearbooks, and more.

In 1897 Uncle Warren had enough. He wrote to his brother telling him he could no longer provide a home to his nephew. Asa, Sr., and Lucy Elizabeth rallied and campaigned for forgiveness for their son. By now Howard had joined on with enough of the poor behavior that Warren kicked both nephews out. They were forced to take up residence in one of the Helping Halls. Full excerpts of the letters sent from Asa, Sr., to both boys and privately to Howard appear below in the timeline.

Family lore claims that the final infraction was due to riding a bicycle on the campus quad, and while that may have contributed, their father alludes to smoking in his letter to Howard. Bicycles were relatively new and fashionable at that time, and Buddie had used his monthly stipend to buy one against his family’s advisement. This appears to have resulted in Asa, Sr., removing his access to his stipend and putting all purchase approvals through Howard, further straining their sibling relationship.

Buddie fixated on his bike, the first of many speed machines that he would fixate on throughout his life. Two letters from his father to his brother mention the bike, in terse asides without context. King Shorty had decreed that bikes were dangerous contraptions and banned them from campus after a student crashed his two-wheeler into a carriage. So if Buddie rode his bicycle on campus, it would have been in direct violation of his uncle’s rules. And that, the lore goes, was the final straw.

 
I can’t afford to write to him but want you to see to it that he reinstates himself with my brother. I cannot bear for him to be disgraceful.
— Asa Candler, Sr., to Howard Candler, Jan 20, 1897
 

Howard graduated in June of 1898 with honors. Buddie graduated in June of 1899 with none. Asa, Sr., permitted Buddie to take the family’s speedy pony and trap to campus for commencement week celebrations, and then brought him home briefly before deploying him to Los Angeles. In a letter to Howard he expressed pride that Buddie had made it through to the end and asked his oldest son to congratulate him. “Buddie left this morning in the trap to attend Emory Commencement.  …If you have time to write him a letter on Sunday directing it to Oxford encouraging him, calling attention to the fact that though he did not take first honor, that you believe he has taken a good education, and that he has every equipment necessary to being successful.” This is one of the most interesting correspondences in the archive because fifty years later, when Howard donated his papers to Emory, he felt compelled to comment in the margin: "Could not do this with a clear conscience."

This tension between the two elder Candler brothers would continue in the next phase of Buddie’s life, out in sunny California.


College Days Timeline

Charles Howard Starts College

September, 1894

Having graduated from Moreland Military Academy, Howard moved out of the family home and moved in with his uncle in Oxford, GA, as an Emory College freshman.

Buddie turns 15

August 27, 1895

Buddie celebrates his birthday just days before the start of Emory's fall session.

Buddie starts college

September 1895

Buddie moves home briefly following graduation from the West End Academy in Cartersville, GA. He lives at home for the summer and then moves to Oxford, GA, to start his freshman year at Emory College.

Howard Blackballs Buddie from KA

Fall 1895

Buddie is prohibited from rushing the Kappa Alpha Order fraternity and chooses not to pursue any other affiliations.

Asa, Sr., encourages club membership

November 1895

In a letter addressed to both boys, Asa, Sr., asks Buddie not to tease Howard about his KA affiliation, and encourages his sons to do so well and make such a good impression that all of the best clubs will want them.

Asa Sr. Begs for Better Grades

January 27, 1896

In a letter addressed to both boys, Asa, Sr., urges the boys to address their low grades, especially in Latin and Greek. He expresses bewilderment at their lack of willingness to perform better academically.

Asa Sr. Lectures Howard

February 21, 1896

In a letter addressed to Howard, Asa, Sr., attempts to end an argument between his two older sons. He admits that Buddie is likely to have acted more wickedly than Howard, but Howard was certainly not treating Buddie kindly. He accuses Howard of speaking evilly to Buddie and to his friends, and begs Howard to love each other if only for their parents' sake..

Buddie is voted Class Pugilist

Spring 1896

The annual yearbook, the Emory Zodiac, awards honorifics to its class leaders, along with a couple of humorous categories such as Prophet and Dude. Buddie's honorific is a rare one, not occurring in every class, nor every year. I have found only one other use of Class Pugilist during that time period.

Buddie's Sophomore Year Starts

Fall, 1896

Buddie Struggles to Make Friends

Sept 20, 1896

Asa, Sr., writes to Howard to ask him to help his brother make friends and adapt to college life. He fears that Buddie hasn't been making friends and expresses heartbreak. He asks Howard to be his brother's friend and also help him with his studies.

Bicycle Mention #1

December 1, 1896

In a letter from Asa, Sr., to Howard, the first reference to Buddie's bicycle interest appears. In a non sequitur Asa, Sr., writes, "Tried hard to get Buddie's bicycle. It has not yet been returned."

Buddie Acts Out

January 20, 1897

Asa, Sr., writes to Howard to ask him for an intervention on his behalf. He expresses dismay that Buddie is not taking his schooling seriously or treating his uncle with respect. Key phrases include, "My brother says he must be taken from Oxford and that he cannot control him," and "I cannot think that Buddie has deliberately made up his mind to kill me with remorse." and "If I have to return him I don't know what I will do with him."

1897 Emory Zodiac Stories

Spring, 1897

The '96-'97 annual publication includes a humorous write-up about the sophomore class, riddled with in-jokes about classmates. In the write-up, the following passage appears:

"There is in our class a man who expects to make his fortune out of the treatise on Plane Geometry and Trigonometry which he is at present preparing for publication. Its title will be Plane Geometry and Trigonometry Made Easy, by Asa G. Candler. The author is confident that his book will be adopted by the public schools and many of the leading colleges in the south."

Given his troubles with grades and the pleas of his father to do better, and given his later issues with managing business and personal finances, it suggests that he may have struggled with math. Especially given the context in which the passage appeared, which was by custom ironic and mocking in tone.

Asa, Sr., Worries

June 1, 1897

Asa, Sr., writes to both boys and expresses his anguish as follows: "I hope you are both extremely well. Last night I dreamed of Buddie, a bad dream. I put no faith in dreams. Still, as he came to me, or rather I went to him, in distress his face haunts me today. I am constantly thinking of my absent children. Faith in God that they will do right and always their best is my only joy in their absence. We are all very well. Love to you both."

Buddie starts his Junior Year

September 16, 1897

In a rare preservation of his personal correspondences since Howard retained none, Buddie sends a typed letter to his sister in Cartersville, introducing her to his brand new typewriter that their Papa gave him, possibly to help him with his studies. His spelling, grammar and punctuation are all substandard and consistent with his later writing errors.

Bicycle mention #2

September 24, 1897

In a letter to Howard, Asa Sr., says simply, "Bud's letter of Saturday just received. Sorry he broke his bicycle." He also instructs Howard to "let" Buddie buy a book he wants and instructs him to be responsible with his money. The positioning of the statement suggests that Howard may have been given control over both of their stipends. This would be consistent with the family lore about how Buddie acquired his bicycle, which claims that he went against his father's wishes and spent a month's stipend on the unapproved purchase. In October Asa, Sr., sends another letter to Howard, instructing him to let Buddie buy gymnasium clothes. This further supports the theory that all access to spending money was managed through Howard.

Uncle Warren Evicts his Nephews

October 16, 1897

Asa, Sr., sends a typed letter to his sons. Transcribed in full since paraphrasing doesn't do it justice:

"Dear Boys: I enclose to you a letter just received which is of all the incidents that I can now recall the most mortifying to me. Immediately upon its receipt telephoned for you to make a change. I am advised that it is possible that you can't find a place to go to. This is an extremity to which I never dreamed that I would be driven. I must leave the matter with you. If you can find a place, go to it. Notify me upon what terms you are accepted so that I may remit accordingly, as I dare say since you have been turned out of your boarding house, I have neither credit nor standing significant to get you a month's board without paying in advance. Twenty-five years ago I came to Atlanta without knowing anybody and had no trouble in finding a place to lodge where I could get board and pay when I had it. IT did not occur to me that I would ever have boys who would be placed as you are and which places me where you have placed me. When I hear from you, I will write further. Affectionately, Asa G. Candler"

In a letter privately directed to Howard, sent on the same day, Asa, Sr., conveys a different tone.

"Dear Howard: I enclose letter received today. Read it carefully, return it to me with your comments. I had no idea whatever that you boys were not behaving. Your views of this situation coincide exactly with mine. I am putting implicit faith in both of you behaving exactly right. It is more than ever necessary that you should be perfect gentlemen. You are going to be watched and closely criticized, this is especially true of Buddie. Upon your good conduct depends not only my peace of mind and your best interests, but the future welfare of your younger brothers. Believe that I am trusting you boys to do right. I hope Buddie will remember his promises as to the use of tobacco. He knows I will not stand that. I believe his uncle is mistaken. I can't think he would violate my laws. See to it also that he is not out of his room at night. What rates are you getting for board, and how are payments made? Write me promptly upon these points."

1898 Emory Zodiac Stories

Spring, 1898

The '97-'98 annual publication includes a joke about Buddie being kicked out of a residence hall. This is a clear reference to his uncle evicting him in October of that school year. The book also includes a mention of Buddie belonging to a cryptic organization called "The Cat Club," and he is listed as the club's "Pet Swiper." He is also credited as the manager of the school's Bicycle Club, an organization that didn't exist in prior years. The yearbook's summary of the Junior class strikes a slacker-chic tone, taking pride in the number of class wash-outs and the lack of care with which they approached the school's culture. Given the mocking, rebelious tone, it raises a question: was Buddie influenced by this environment or was he the influencer?

Buddie Starts his Senior year

Fall, 1898

Howard leaves Emory and is deployed west through Southern states and into Kansas, selling Coca Cola and establishing new customers. Buddie remains at Emory for his Senior year. No letters to Buddie were preserved, and Asa, Sr.'s letters to Howard take on a business tone, no longer concerned with his responsibility to act as custodian to his younger brother.

Asa, Sr., Plans Buddie's Future

May 25, 1899

In a letter to Howard, who at this point is stationed in Kansas City, their father wonders what to do with Buddie once he graduates. He asks Howard for advice. He considers sending Buddie to join Howard in Kansas City so they can both set up headquarters and work different areas of the surrounding territory. Howard's reply is not on record, but given that this plan was not raised again one can assume it wasn't favorable. On May 30 he follows up with a note that Buddie is pressuring him to be sent to Los Angeles to act as assistant branch manager, but he is reluctant to send his second son so far away.

Buddie Graduates from College

June 14, 1899

In a pair of letters to Howard on June 5th and 8th, Asa, Sr., notes that Buddie and their sister Lucy asked to drive themselves in the pony and trap (a speedy vehicle) to Oxford to celebrate graduation. He includes the following request: "If you have time to write him a letter on Sunday directing it to Oxford encouraging him, calling attention to the fact that though he did not take first honor, that you believe he has taken a good education, and that he has every equipment necessary to being successful. I have not decided yet what to do with him. Must decide positively next week."

Note in the margin by Howard 50 years later: "Could not do this with a clear conscience."


College Days Gallery

Historic Emory College in Oxford, GA. At the far left is the bell tower of Seney Hall. Rotating clockwise around the quad, the next building is the chapel, followed by Phi Sigma Hall. Directly across from Phi Sigma is Few Hall. At the center of the quad an obelisk marks the campus site. All of these landmarks still exist today. Also visible are Humanities Hall. Language Hall. and Candler Hall, which was built for college president Warren Candler in 1897.

Seney Hall on the campus of Emory College, Oxford, GA. To the left of Seney Hall is Language Hall. Partially visible at the far left is Candler Hall.

THE OXFORD EMORY DEAN’S HOUSE, FORMERLY THE EMORY COLLEGE PRESIDENT’S HOUSE. THE GABLES TO EITHER SIDE OF THE PORCH were likely used as student rooms during its years as a Helping Hall.

“Oxford Echoes” manuscript, provided by a member of the Oxford Historical Society

“Oxford Echoes” manuscript, provided by a member of the Oxford Historical Society

Excerpt of “Oxford Echoes” listing Warren Candler as a resident of the President’s house.

Excerpt of “Oxford Echoes” listing Warren Candler as a resident of the President’s house.

EMORY COLLEGE ZODIAC YEARBOOK, DEPICTING PRESIDENT WARREN CANDLER, OR “KING SHORTY,” OVERSEEING HIS KINGDOM.

“One of shorty’s outcasts,” a joke based on Buddie’s ejection from his uncle’s residence - 1898 Emory Zodiac

1898 EMORY ZODIAC YEARBOOK EXCERPT, FEATURING QUOTABLE QUOTES FROM WARREN CANDLER, AKA “KING SHORTY.”

1895 EMORY ZODIAC FEATURING THE 10 COMMANDMENTS OF PRESIDENT WARREN CANDLER, AKA “KING SHORTY.”

Asa Candler, Jr., voted freshman class pugilist - 1896 Emory zodiac

History of the Sophomore Class, including a brief joke about Buddie Candler’s poor math skills and braggadocio - 1897 Emory Zodiac
Also includes a 19th century boob joke, if you can spot it.

Based on resources that build a picture of the three candlers that attended Emory that year, My educated guess is that this is Buddie. - 1898 Emory Zodiac

Disturbing illustration for the Cat Club. No confirmation of the cat club’s activities can be found, but colloquial use during that time period would suggest something to do with socializing with young women and/or drinking. 1898 Emory Zodiac

Manager and founder of the Emory Bike club, junior year - 1898 Emory Zodiac

The Emory College Bike club, managed by Asa Candler, Jr., 5th from the left. Cousin William Beall Candler, Jr. (not to be confused with Asa Jr.’s younger brother William) is shown third from the right. - 1898 Emory Zodiac

During Buddie’s Junior year the class history reads with a kind of slacker-chic tone. This class was responsible for producing the 1899 yearbook, but did not coordinate and publish one. It’s one of the only missing years from the Zodiac’s publishing history.

Junior class history, with a strange nihilistic tone - 1898 Emory Zodiac

“I Feel Like I Feel Like I Feel,” declared the Junior class song in 1898. Intended to be an annoying repetition like “The Song That Never Ends” or “99 Bottles of Beer on the Wall.” The song appears as early as the 1860s in collections of war songs that were shared and performed by civil war soldiers while in the field.

Photos Charles Howard Candler:

Charles Howard Candler, front row 3rd from the left, Kappa Alpha Order fraternity - 1895 Emory Zodiac

Charles Howard Candler, front row, 3rd from the left, Mandolin Club - 1895 Emory Zodiac

Kappa Alpha Order Fraternity, Charles Howard Candler, front row 2nd from the right - 1898 Emory Zodiac

Tennis Club, Charles Howard Candler, front row 3rd from the right - 1898 Emory Zodiac
Note: this was Howard’s senior year. He would have been around 20 years old in this photo, Although he looks like an adolescent.